Here is the blog post:
heart goes out to the blog's author, and to anyone that has been
through such difficult things in their life. It is sad that scumbags
get away with all manner of horrible things in and out of our hobby.
That being said, I think those of us that DON"T engage in this behavior
need to stand up and do something about things like this if we see them.
Normally this sort of thing is left up for the GM / DM to handle, but
that too is a bunch of bullshit; players have vocal cords as well. If
you think someone is uncomfortable stopping the game should be a
priority. There can be that pressure where, "The show must go on" but
ignore that, and take care of the players at the table, or in some cases
the GM if the players are the ones targeting them.
of the language and phrases used in the article I wouldn't have used,
but I'm also a white male gamer. I think it is only natural to be a bit
defensive when a group you belong to is targeted by an article like
this. People should be judged as individuals and not because of a label
that is applied to them or because they belong to some group. I didn't
always think that way, but life experiences and unlearning some faulty
thinking showed me a bit of wisdom in that regard. Judging someone by a
group they belong too is lazy, and essentially lumping people into
stereotypes and archetypes. People don't fit nice and neatly in the
little boxes we assign them to. Take each person as a unique individual
and judge the fruits of their tree if it is ripe or rotten.
all honesty I tend to stay away from gender and race topics when they
concern the role-playing game community, because they tend to blow up
and can be divisive. My internal dialogue tends to be, "can't we just
play Elf Games and get along while we forget the real world and all of
its miseries?" Articles like this can be eye-opening however because
they are from a completely different vantage point. I haven't been
harassed, groped, raped, or mistreated and the hobby for me has been a
haven against similar behavior from "average non-gaming folks."
have been known to run games that are disturbing and have subject
matter that is not appropriate for everyone (though I always warn people
well in advance of such things so there are no surprises). Should I
stop running games like that because of the subject matter? I would say
no, again as long as everyone knows what they are signing up for. So I
am for freedom of expression, artistic license, free speech, etc. in
I think the gaming community for me
has actually taught me a lot about sexism, homophobia, transphobia, etc.
that I never learned growing up in rural Pennsylvania. I'm still not
always sure where the line is between sexy and sexist, so that shows I
have more learning to do. smile emoticon I'm just trying to be honest, for whatever that is worth.
instance, I recorded a video where I talked about how I was more
comfortable playing RPGs with guys. Now I know that is partly due to
Social Anxiety when I'm around women. It's my issue though that I need
to work on. I also think I learned a lot of things from my father
unintentionally that need to be UNlearned. We are a product of our
environment in some ways.
I have always tried to
be welcoming, friendly, nice, etc. to those in my hobby because I know
that a lot of us are damaged goods and need a diversion, and escape,
entertainment, and meaningful interaction with other people who can also
have FUN. I have never met a more welcoming bunch of outcasts before I
started playing games. Kids can be cruel, and adults even more so in
So my advice is to be nice to each
other, keep your damn hands to yourself (who's mother didn't teach them
that?) and if you see something awful happen help the victim and do not
hide the asshole that is giving the rest of us a bad name. Seriously,
fuck those guys. -Tim Samwise7RPG Harper
I also filmed a video that is pretty much identical to this post.